The Five Love Languages
My primary love language is probably
Physical Touch
with a secondary love language being
Words of Affirmation.
Complete set of results
| Physical Touch: |
|
10 |
| Words of Affirmation: |
|
9 |
| Quality Time: |
|
7 |
| Receiving Gifts: |
|
3 |
| Acts of Service: |
|
1 |
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Unhappiness in relationships, according to Dr. Gary Chapman, is often due to the fact that we speak different love languages. Sometimes we don't understand our partner's requirements, or even our own. We all have a "love tank" that needs to be filled in order for us to express love to others, but there are different means by which our tank can be filled, and there are different ways that we can express love to others.
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This is interesting. Keith and I have been firm believers in The Five Love Languages for years. But in thinking about (if you have read the book) my results, I wonder how much is really me and how much is a mask. For years Keith has asked me to rub his back, caress him, etc. and the only thing that I generally think is "Man, I wish you would do this for me!" The last time I said I wanted a back rub, we got into a fight!
I very much need Keith to constantly re-affirm that he loves me. I love it when he sends me "kisses" through IM because he is telling me that he loves me. I am saying I love you all the time to him, just so that he will say it back. When I make something, I always ask him first for his opinion. "Do you think they will like it?" "Do you like it" "How do I look" those sort of things, just so I can get something out of him. I am so getting tired of feeling like I have to beg for it. Is it really worth it?
When we go on our long drives (which is really why I prefer road trips to flying) I have an absolute blast. When we went away for our anniversary, I have never felt like Keith loved me more! We spent time just being in the room together snuggling. We don't do nearly enough of that. I have spent a lot of time lately feeling like everything is going right in our lives, we have a new car, we are building a new home, but emotionally I feel generally blah with brief areas of anger OR joy, but none of it ever seems to last very long either way. Well, I guess it is time to go upstairs, time to get ready for bed.
Good night World.